It’s time for a moment of critical thinking. What if there were peace in the world? So, we could have more adventures there – travel more, create more or just sit peacefully introverting more. What is the reason we don’t have it? And how to create it?
I may be wrong, but I guess I know one answer.
Why don’t we have peace?
There is no peace when some people disagree about some facts.
Who is stronger and who is weaker? Only fighting can make them sure.
Who has deserved to have this or that? Usually, it is proved by fighting.
Who is right and who is wrong? Who is smart and who is stupid? Even about these things people fight.
I talk not only about wars with guns. I talk not only about commercial wars between companies. I talk about those tiny wars around us happening each day. Words are usually used there, but words may hurt as badly as swords or bullets do. Maybe we cannot do many things about politics, but we can do much about ourselves.
If the life is not peaceful, but we want to make it such, let’s think about differences in opinions. Is it worth losing the peace around me only for insisting my opinion?
We may call our opinion knowledge, or we may call it fact. But our facts might be outdated, based on wrong sources, or, surprisingly, they might not contradict our opponent’s views at all only because of the misinterpretations of the words.
It’s true, sometimes it is worth losing peace with surrounding people for an opinion. But mostly it’s not.
It’s true, I am a soft person who rarely sees any value in arguing. But I don’t feel I am losing much for that.
We think that there is one ultimate truth. Some people dedicate their lives for seeking this ultimate truth. Some dedicate their lives to teaching others this ultimate truth. But all we have is a bunch of opinions, just ones are more prevailing than others.
And if someone does not want to listen, then he or she is stupid, he does not understand the ultimate truth. We try to force him to accept it. So starts the argument, the fighting.
Consider the last argument you had. Who was the other party? Your friend? Your classmate? Your spouse? What was the topic? What were the opinions? What would happen if you would let them have theirs? Just to keep their opinion and get along with it?
We all are different, and there may be an ultimate truth which could lead you into the most fulfilling life possible, but then it is your personal ultimate truth.
You may think that I am trying to teach you my personal ultimate truth here. You are not wrong, however, I am showing you how to discover yours by collecting inspiration in your own life, your own actions, not from other people. Then it will be your truth.
Way to peace
Here I speak about peace around us, peace with family, friends, relatives. That is the peace I am experiencing, so I can talk about it. I have never seen or participated in a war, so I cannot say anything about it. But if we start creating peace around us, it would be much better than worrying about peace in the world and doing nothing about it. Here are the three ways to peace.
1) Try to stop insisting your way. Let them go theirs.
I am going my way, proudly calling it the introverted way, and writing about it here in this blog. If you feel you are going the same direction – I would be glad if you join. If you want to deal with life in your own way – it is perfectly okay.
What about defending your way? Sure, you must do it. But do not attack.
What if it’s time to part with someone because our ways split? Well, that happens.
2) Try to find similar points in different opinions.
Even the most different opinions have something in common. It is difficult to see it at first, but if we search, we will find. Maybe those common points will be too tiny for a friendship, but they might be enough for a peaceful conversation.
Completely accepting the opinion of others might not be a good idea, because then we will lose our inner harmony. So let’s keep it and protect.
3) Try to stop searching for the ultimate answer.
Choose the philosophy you like the most and stick to it, then you will have peace of mind no matter what. However, be aware that it might be wrong. Scientists know that their current understanding of the world is incomplete and they are fine with that. If only ordinary people could be the same!
Peace of mind helps to create peace around you. And peace around you helps to create peace in the world.
And also check this cool quote I found somewhere on the internet:
It is only right to explain why someone is wrong when you are explaining why to explain that someone is wrong is wrong.
And if you do not want peace – ignore everything that you have read. Your ultimate answer is different and I accept it.