Have you ever encountered such a moment in your life, when one of your dreams suddenly came true? What was the feeling? Great?
From time to time I fulfill my small dreams one by one, but the feeling is not always great. There are two reasons why it happens and two ideas how to make this not happen.
To illustrate the point, I will use a metaphor.
Metaphor of a dune of salt
One of my favorite songs is called “Dune of salt“, created by a not so well know artist “Skardas“. When I listened to this track, I imagined myself by huge white dunes made of salt. The feeling was somewhat like in the remote Iceland, vast snow fields of Antarctica or some other icy planet similar to Enceladus.
You get the idea – the feeling of standing by the dune of salt is magic! The smell of salt fills the air and seems like you hear the crystals tinging. White salt reflects the light very well, seems like the dunes are a bit glowing and blurred.
Real dune of salt
While visiting Taiwan, I got the opportunity to visit the salt museum. That place had a long history of producing salt, to preserve that history they built a museum. And of course, a museum needs to have some attractions. So, they have a souvenir shop, salty ice cream shop (I liked them a lot), and a huge dune of salt!
Wow! I remembered my favorite song at once and was so much excited about visiting an object I had only in my dream.
But my idealistic image suddenly broke. The dune was a single mountain of salt in the middle of asphalt field. The salt was dirty, like a dirty snow. Since it was one of most important tourist attractions in major Taiwanese tourist city, it was crowded. You could go up the way to the top of the dune and see the buildings of the museum and nothing much more because the location is far far away from any nice places to see. Also, it seemed not like a pile of tiny grains of salt, but rather a monolith. And the worst thing was an enormous, huge Maneki-Neko (that good luck bringing cat) on top of it waving its paw.
The two reasons and two ideas
Should we stop dreaming if our dreams are destined to break down so spectacularly?
My suggestion is to keep dreaming, but have in mind, that fulfilling your dreams is not necessary a straight way to happiness. You might get what you want, but will not necessary feel as you expected. There two reasons behind this:
- Dreams will not appear exactly as you expected. One guy asked the god to make him able to see all women naked, and the god made him into WC for women. You might get what you want but in an unexpected way. Me too, I never expected to meet a dune of salt as overcrowded tourist object.
- Your dreams lack details. You might dream of being a singer and performing on stage, but what about those boring rehearsals in the studio? You might dream about being a businessman and being rich, but what about working late on Sunday? Unless you are an architect and you have drawn your dream house, you lack details in your dream. Me too, I did not think about salt being dirty. If the snow gets dirty, then salt will get dirty too.
There is an old saying “Beware of your dreams. They might fulfill.” If we really dream about something and if we really want this, we will get it. And we might regret dreaming after all. My suggestions are two, think about them when dreaming next time.
- Concentrate on feeling instead of things. How do you want to feel? Maybe right now you have enough things or achievements for you to feel like you want? Or maybe you need different things to achieve this feeling?
- Draw more details for your dreams. Think or write about as many details as you can. Is the desire for the dream increasing or decreasing while you do? Is there anything you forgot about? If it is your real passion, you will want it more and more if you add more details. But if it is not – you will have doubt. Let this doubt be your guide.
But don’t stop dreaming. No matter your dream is small or big.