You may have heard a lot about the word harmony. Me too.
But what does it really mean? It is not important what does it really mean because what it means depends on which philosophy or point of view do we use.
For us, it is important how to make our actions to be harmonious?
A simple definition of harmony: Harmony is when there are no contradictions.
So, harmony in actions is when there is no contradiction in actions.
In my last article about what is the action, I explained that there are three types of actions.
1. The action of the body – physical movements and other worldly actions.
2. The action of mouth – speaking and other types of communicating some message.
3. The action of mind – thinking, concentrating and other types of mental activity.
So harmony is when all these actions do not contradict each other. Here we get 3 principles of harmony in everyday life.
1. Body movements do not contradict your communication. You say what you did. You do what you said you will do. You never say what you will not do. If you are telling that you like challenges, but sit in your home all the time – you will feel bad. Either admit that you are a home buddy or go accept some challenges.
2. Body movements do not contradict your thinking. If you think you should do something – do this. If you think you shouldn’t – don’t do this. If you are doing something – be mindful about this, think what are you doing. Otherwise, you will go to McDonald’s to eat some hamburgers, then you will think “but that’s so unhealthy” and then you will feel bad. If you go to McDonald’s, don’t reproach yourself. If you know you will – don’t go there.
3. Your communication does not contradict your thinking. Or intention I should say. Should you always speak what you think? No. Your communication must follow your intention. If you want to get rid of unpleasant people go and tell them they’re assholes (or what you think about them). But if you want to get along – keep silent. If you want to make a surprise to a friend – you may lie. If you don’t want to disappoint someone – you may lie. But if you feel the truth should be said – say it, otherwise, you will feel bad. Say not what is right, but that what is right to say now. Often it is right to say what you think. More often it is right to say nothing.
So if you love someone, hug them (body), say you love them (mouth), think how to make them happy (mind).
If you hate someone, punch them in their face (body), say you hate them (mouth), think how to hurt them (mind). Wait a minute! That’s harmony too?? Yeah, something is lacking in this theory. There should be the fourth principle.
Imagine a situation when someone considers that the greatest value in his life is creativity. But he thinks that he should earn money (mind), works in a bank (body), boasts about his wealth (mouth). He is certainly feeling bad. That means less motivation, worse results, less money, depression, conflicts etc.
Now imagine the situation, when someone considers that logic and clarity is the greatest value in his life. But he thinks he should be a painter (mind), paints paintings (body), speaks about art (mouth). He is certainly feeling bad. That means less inspiration, weak paintings, less money, depression, conflicts etc.
Only if those two guys could switch their places!
I hope you got the 4th principle.
4. Body movements, thoughts, and communications do not contradict your inner values. All your actions, all your life should be built around your inner values. If not – you will feel bad. Everything you do – observe mindfully. Am I acting according to my inner values? Do I believe what am I doing?
If you don’t know what your inner values are, we have some work still to do. (A bit about values here)
And harmony does not mean constant peace. A lion kills and eats an antelope, so much blood and still harmony in nature. If your value is fighting – fight.
If you follow your inner values, your life will be filled with harmony. If you do what you believe, your actions will flow like a river.