Which one should be the first? Which one comes after? Maybe we start loving what we already do bit by bit, very slowly. And at the same time, we start doing what we love more and more often. And these loving and doing overlap more and more until finally merge after 100 years or so, but that’s still nice.
Do these two contradict each other? If we are satisfied with what we have and work to make the world better for others, then no. But if we try to change the world, to have more for ourselves, then yes, they contradict.
Is there any contradiction between these two? This is a tough one.
How can we be anyone else? If I am not self-confident, I am myself. If I am doing what others say, I am myself. A follower. If I am faking my personality, I am myself. A faker. What else could I be?
My body is not me. My mind is not me. My name is not me. So, who should I be? What is that “I”?
Faking, imitating others is a natural process of learning in any field. Being yourself is following your deepest values. Two different things. If one wants to fake – let them be themselves, let them fake. Why pretend to be a unicorn?
Is there actually any contradiction here? Maybe we can let our heart to imagine better future, set the goals that matter, and let our brain to find a way how to implement that future and how to achieve those goals?