We cannot decide what we want, but what we want shapes our mind, and our mind shapes our decisions.
If you decide to seek what you don’t want, you will get what you don’t want.
However, this article helps to deal with low quality overthinking: How to overcome overthinking? 8 steps to clear mind.
Which one should be the first? Which one comes after? Maybe we start loving what we already do bit by bit, very slowly. And at the same time, we start doing what we love more and more often. And these loving and doing overlap more and more until finally merge after 100 years or so, but that’s still nice.
Do these two contradict each other? If we are satisfied with what we have and work to make the world better for others, then no. But if we try to change the world, to have more for ourselves, then yes, they contradict.
I’m so tired from one-sided memes, so here is my four-sided meme.
And Netflix is a waste of time. We’re supposed to read books, not to stare at the box.
Is it any contradiction here? Why cannot we be spontaneous within our plans? Why cannot we make a plan spontaneously?
Is there any contradiction between these two? This is a tough one.
How can we be anyone else? If I am not self-confident, I am myself. If I am doing what others say, I am myself. A follower. If I am faking my personality, I am myself. A faker. What else could I be?
My body is not me. My mind is not me. My name is not me. So, who should I be? What is that “I”?
Faking, imitating others is a natural process of learning in any field. Being yourself is following your deepest values. Two different things. If one wants to fake – let them be themselves, let them fake. Why pretend to be a unicorn?
Is there actually any contradiction here? Maybe we can let our heart to imagine better future, set the goals that matter, and let our brain to find a way how to implement that future and how to achieve those goals?
Think: What am I leaving behind me?
A bit longer article about the purpose of life: How much time did you waste in search for life purpose? Stop right now!
And a bit longer graphic story about finding the direction: How the Cheshire Cat helps to find direction
And a questionnaire that helps to find the direction: Finding the Life Direction