Have you seen other blogs aimed at introverts? Did you notice how often they celebrate being wrapped in a blanket all day as the ultimate manifestation of being an introvert? I feel that it is something wrong with this.
Many of us have experienced this moment of mind transformation, when we finally realize that it is OK if you don’t want to go to the party, but prefer a book, a cup of tea and a blanket. But what if you actually want to go out? I experienced another transformation, when I realized, that it is OK to be introvert and not want to stay with a book and a cup of tea wrapped in a blanket.
What a freedom of breaking through a stereotype!
Let’s try together.
Are they confusing you?
So, what is wrong, when all the internet is full of cute pics with innies wrapped in blankets?
It is a simple thing – everything you want to do in this world requires energy. It does not matter what type are you. Extrovert sales managers are lazy to sit down and silently write a report. Introvert designers are lazy to get up and call their client. But we found an excuse! We found that we are deep thinking, sensitive people, so we cannot give public speeches or do many other things. And then we say that it is OK to stay in bed wrapped in blankets and not to go out all the day.
When I was a child I explained to my mother that I am a highly creative individual, and I cannot do such a dull task as tidying my room. She said:
But you can tidy your room in a creative way!
That is the point. We can do everything, but in an introverted way. And these are the two main points I am trying to defend in this website:
- We can do everything we want, we don’t need to stick to the stereotype of an introvert!
- But we need to do this in our own way, we don’t need the stereotypical way of doing it!
I felt strange that I am introvert, but I still want to travel, still like giving public speeches. I thought what is wrong with me? At first, I thought, what is wrong with me that I don’t want to talk? But now I think why I want to do things that I am not supposed to do as the one who does not like to talk? I realized, that I am confused by opinions of other people – they are defending their own way to do things, so I must defend my own too.
The true potential of introverts
We can go to explore the world! And exploring the world means not only talking to as many different people as we can, or having as many different experiences as we can. We can silently observe it, enjoy the sights, enjoy the deep feelings it gives to us. We don’t need to see the “best” things that are so much crowded and noisy, we can stick to greatest things, that often are silent and forgotten.
We can achieve anything we want! And for achieving something it is not necessary to be the best sales manager in the town or to have the hugest social network of people. Sometimes achievements require lots of quiet time, concentration and deep thought. Achieving does not mean being the most successful businessman or the most popular artist. It means making little victories in the fields that matter to us. It is OK to be just happy with what makes you happy and not seeking affirmation of others.
(Here is my meme series about introvert achiever)
We can build connections with people! Building connections do not mean always talking to people. It means doing things together and spending time together. Isn’t it cool to do something really interesting with other people who understand and appreciate what are you doing? Be it cooking a meal, going for a hike or watching a movie. Topics for having a conversation are guaranteed. Meaningful, interesting conversation.
(A graphic story claiming, that introverts are naturally great at connecting)
Our potential is the same as of other types of people. It is not limited, nor extended by being an introvert. It is defined by our dreams, our thoughts, and our actions. Introversion just requires a special way to deal with those dreams, thoughts or actions. Introversion is not an excuse, it’s a way.
By the way, I see nothing wrong in being wrapped in a blanket all day as long as that is what you really want and it is not an excuse. I have spent a lot of evenings wrapped in my sleeping bag with an e-book reader and flashlight in my tent while traveling.
If you are not looking for excuses and believe that introversion is not a limitation, please join me on facebook. Lots of positive philosophy happening there.